My friend is getting engaged. There’s so much to do. The ring. Setting the date for the wedding. Choosing which Bryan Adams songs to include in the engagement party playlist.
But everything’s on hold, because her father is overseas.
That’s right, the happy couple is waiting until the bride’s father returns so her boyfriend can ask her dad’s permission to marry her.
It’s not just my friends who think it’s a good idea for two men to make decisions about a grown woman’s future. There are even groom websites debating whether it’s best to ask a father for his “permission” or his “blessing”.
Some men even seek permission from their future father-in-law before they pop the question to their girlfriend — as if their girlfriend’s opinion on the matter is a minor detail.
Why do women put up with this? Some women say it’s romantic and respectful. Others just chalk it up to harmless tradition.