Should I teach my daughters to stand up to the boys who will bully them when it could get them hurt?
Should I teach my daughters to stand up to the men and boys who will bully and abuse them when it could get them hurt or killed?
At a recent six-year-old’s birthday party, I watched two girls playing in a cubby house. Three boys came over and decided they were going to evict the girls.
“No girls allowed,” said one boy as he stood menacingly over the girls. The other two boys crowded around the girls for affect.
One of the girls, in fear, did as she was ordered and left the cubby house. The other girl stood her ground. “We were here first, you can’t kick us out,” she said.
They weren’t my kids so I gently told the boys that everyone was allowed to play in the cubby house.
The boys ignored me, and proceeded to push the remaining girl out of the window of the cubby house. The girl fell flat on her back and screamed in pain.
The boys seemed oblivious to her distress and completely unremorseful. They went on with their no-girls-allowed game in the cubby house.
I took the sobbing girl over to the parents at the party and explained what had happened.
What followed was a neat lesson in how girls are schooled in male power and privilege.