Think of a deadbeat dad, and you probably imagine an unshaven bro permanently dressed in over-sized basketball gear, even though he’s over 30, whose main achievement in life is having graduated through several versions of Grand Theft Auto.
That’s the stereotype, but there is a middle-class equivalent. He’s the “good guy” with the good income and lives in the nice area. He has kids — even lives with them — but outright refuses to spend “his” money to support them.
A friend who’s been a nanny for almost twenty years has seen her share of middle class deadbeat dads. She’s had numerous hushed conversations with embarrassed “wealthy” women who have no money because their husbands – who they are still married to – won’t contribute financially to the children. “Is this normal?” these women whisper to their babysitter, too ashamed to raise the issues with their friends.
Perhaps the worst case is a woman who has to borrow money from her parents to pay for childcare because her surgeon husband refuses to cough up a cent. He won’t pay for the kids’ clothes, toiletries or toys either.
In the eyes of this middle-class deadbeat dad, the children are the mother’s responsibility.