‘I can’t get my husband to do a sperm test,’ blurted a friend at a party.
She and her husband have been trying to conceive for over a year. But despite the mutual desire for a child, and the fact they’re both on the wrong side of 35 from a fertility perspective, her husband refuses to get tested.
My friend’s husband isn’t the Lone Ranger when it comes to having his swimmers tested. Trying to Conceive (TTC) online forums are full of women asking for advice on how to convince their partners to take a sperm test.
One woman posts: ‘My husband and I have been TTC for 16 months and so far its not working. They wanted my husband to get tested… that was 3 months ago and he still won’t go. Has anyone else had trouble getting their man to take the [sperm] test?’
Another posts: ‘The doctor said he will try Clomid (fertility drug for women) but he wants to do a sperm test on my husband first. But he is refusing to do it! Not because he doesn’t want to have children etc, but feels that it is “gross” and he shouldn’t have to because nothing is wrong with him.’
As someone who’s been through IVF, I’ve heard similar stories from dozens of women. And my first reaction is one of bewilderment. Haven’t men been practicing for this moment their entire lives? Aiming issues aside, how hard is it to ejaculate into a jar?