#4 Allow yourself to grieve. It’s your loss too
Alcohol or drinking culture didn’t “make” Brock Turner commit rape. I’ve drunk spirits plenty of times but not once have I accidently stripped someone naked and inserted things into their genitals.
A woman’s time is almost universally regarded as less important than a man’s. Or, it’s only valued when it’s in the service of others. And therefore it’s the first to be sacrificed or rescheduled.