I’m a firm believer in social etiquette. I do my best to remember and use people’s names. I’m never short of a “please” or a “thank you” and when I’m walking through a door I’ll hold it open for the person behind me.
But some traditional etiquette is no longer good manners; in fact it’s freaking rude. Far from being polite, persisting with antiquated and inappropriate etiquette rituals can be a way of controlling people and asserting one’s social dominance.
Here’s a memo to the clueless-yet-well-meaning folk about old-school social etiquette that’s now just plain offensive.