Kasey Edwards is an author and commentator. She has written two volumes of memoir, 30-Something and Over It and 30-Something and the Clock is Ticking. She writes a column for Daily Life.
When Kasey Edwards discovers she’ll be infertile within a year, she is forced to bring the baby issue to the forefront of her mind. In 30-Something and the Clock Is Ticking, she explores what motherhood would mean to her identity, her career, her body, her relationships and her mental health.
Kasey Edwards has everything she’s always wanted: a successful career and the lifestyle and assets to match. But she’s empty and uninspired and doesn’t want to go to work . . . Ever again.
Terrified that she’ll spend the rest of her life wearing pinstripes and pretending to care about ‘adding value’, Kasey embarks on a quest to rediscover passion and purpose in her life and work.
If you have kids, you’ll be familiar with the ‘That’s Not My’ series from Usborne. Now try the adult parody versions: OMG! That’s Not My Husband and OMG! That’s Not My Child.
A memo to the clueless-yet-well-meaning folk about old-school social etiquette that’s now just plain offensive.
The pressure to pretend that mothering is 100 per cent pure joy 100 per cent of the time is oppressive.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that I didn’t want children. I desperately wanted to have my own children. It was just the whole motherhood part of the deal that I struggled with.
In my 20s, I made the mistake of confusing my f–kability with my credibility.
It’s been almost a decade since the Catalyst report was published, showing that Fortune 500 companies with female board members outperform those that don’t. But rather than encourage women, many companies are still positively hostile towards them.
For many women, having kids is like landing on the longest snake in life’s game of Snakes & Ladders. You spend years slogging your way up the career ladders, only to land on the motherhood snake and be forced right back to the beginning of the board.
Football would screech to a halt if not for the labour of women at every level of the game. Yet women are only really welcome on the sidelines: as supports to men and boys, to stroke their egos, and to be objectified as WAGs.
When it comes to excusing adults for discriminating against women and girls, perpetuating out-dated and damaging stereotypes, causing offence, abuse and bodily harm, playing the ignorance card just doesn’t cut it.
Unless we take deliberate steps to teach girls to code, digital literacy will continue to be the domain of men and boys.
Paternal baby-naming is not just some quaint little tradition that’s not worth thinking about, let alone questioning. When you combine it with the equally antiquated tradition of family name legacy, it’s part of the systematic erasure of girls’ and women’s identities and, along with it, their value.
We talk about the importance of teaching girls that it’s okay to say “no”. But what about saying yes?
Message to Jamie Oliver: For many women, breastfeeding isn’t a choice. And if you want to “help mothers and babies” first need to understand that.
A woman’s time is almost universally regarded as less important than a man’s. Or, it’s only valued when it’s in the service of others. And therefore it’s the first to be sacrificed or rescheduled.
Our attitudes towards men who date more powerful women says a lot about how women are used to define masculinity. A lower status woman helps to make a man appear and feel powerful and valid. A higher status woman does the opposite.
Men are unlikely to step up and share the burden of domestic work when even a six-year-old thinks it’s the dud option.
By being cute, girls and women participate in their own oppression by forfeiting the opportunity to be taken seriously. Here’s how to reject the culture of cute.
For generations, a woman’s marital status has been used to cast judgement and aspersions on her moral character and worth. And when the medical procedure is about contraception, you have to question whether there is still a stigma attached.
When it comes to social sins, is there anything worse than a woman who leaves her kids? It’s such a taboo that there are no extenuating circumstance to excuse it.
The expectation that women and girls should be silent is perhaps the most damaging gender stereotype of all. My daughters and their little friends need to see models of women who refuse to be silent.
Labelling the judgement and criticism that mothers face on a daily basis as a “mommy war” reduces a complex social and economic problem to a simple matter of women not knowing how to behave themselves.
Classic movies are a treasure trove of relationship advice, particularly when it comes to spotting manipulation and abuse dressed up as romance.